Separation and Divorce

The separation or divorce of parents is confusing and worrying for children. It can undermine their confidence and cause them to feel angry, guilty or just plain sad.

Children often start to behave differently, sometimes in unexpected ways. This can create extra stress for their parents at what is already a very difficult time. But there is much that you can do to help your children adapt to the new situation:

  • Talk to them openly and honestly
  • Encourage them to share their feelings
  • Try to avoid imposing too many changes at once
  • Ensure that you and your ex-partner both maintain good relations with your children
  • Look after yourself

The separation of parents is difficult for all children to accept, no matter what their age, but research shows that most children - and parents - eventually adapt well to the new situation.

More information and advice

Children’s reactions to separation or divorce
‘Immediately after a divorce or separation, it is common for children’s behaviour to change.’ Read more...

Helping your children through the separation

'There are many things a parent can do which have been proven to help children adapt to a divorce or separation.’ ' Read more...

Parenting after separation or divorce

‘No matter how difficult it is to maintain a good relationship with your ex-partner, this is one of the best ways to ensure that your children adapt well.’ Read more...

Taking care of yourself
‘Parents who adapt well to a divorce or separation are more likely to have children who adjust well.’ Read more...
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